thirty five 

I turned 35 this week. I was merely going to post about my 35 best books but I thought this is big milestone. So I’m going to reflect on life’s lessons so far.

As l look back I realize that even though my life has not been eventful, I have had opportunities to learn a few truths . I don’t know where I’ll be in ten years but I know that if I’m still alive I’ll still believe in what I’ve written here.

Never give up:

There will be times when it all seems like it can’t get any worse, it does.You will become depressed. You will be suicidal. You will become pitiful. You will be ashamed.You won’t be able to look at yourself in the mirror. You will throw yourself a pity party so epic you  won’t want to leave .But you will realize that you’re still  here . You’re ALIVE . Buckle up , dust yourself off and get on with it.Even when it seems that life is too long, life is always too short for you to live in misery .


Be  Kind:

“People never remember what you said but they will always remember how you made them feel”-Maya Angelo

I’m always astounded by how people treat each other so terribly . It doesn’t take a lot out of you to be nice . Just be nice.



If you’re lucky enough to have your family around and get along with them , treasure them. You will always need them more than you will ever know

Be Honest:

Especially with yourself. I feel that it’s the best option in the long run . How foolish it feels when you eventually find out the truth  . So do yourself a favour and don’t walk around wearing the emperor’s new clothes and don’t let your friends  walk around wearing them either.


It’s important to let things go. Again life is simply too short . Besides , you are acknowledging your own short comings.

Stay in school 


Never stop learning. I would hate to think that this is all I will ever know about life. I’m always curious. I’m always learning  .

Keep an open mind:

You’re opinion does not have to be set in stone. You’re allowed to change it, hopefully, for the better

Stay true to yourself :

There will never be another you. Your quirks are yours alone. Nobody can take that from you . Guard them with your whole being. If someone wants you to change , tell them to fuck off . You will  never be enough for them.

Do unto others … 

You know the drill

Love yourself:

Nobody needs love, caring, kindness and understanding more than you do


Are most important after family

Sex can be sex: 

One of life’s greatest pleasures can just be that: a pleasure. Just make sure you still respect yourself in the morning.

Men lie and you will believe their lies:

And you will believe them so hard. You will know he’s lying sometimes but you will believe him because you love him . You are being very foolish right now, but, you will check yourself and show him the door.

Not everyone will like you :

Just as much as some people can rub you the wrong way, you must know that you too possess this ability . Move on ,they don’t know what they ate missing anyway.

Listen to your elders:

If someone older than you tells you that you don’t have to go through that ,that don’t have to know that ,believe them.Some things are not worth the life lesson.